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9 Intentional Christian Parenting Tips

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Intentional parenting can be tough. Here’s a list of 9 important Christian parenting tips for intentional Christian parenting.


Intentional Christian Parenting Tips
My kids and I used to love taking a trip to our local arboretum. Each spring we would hike up to see the magnolia and cherry blossoms.

I suppose we could have wandered around, hoping that we would eventually find the sections we seek in the 187-acre park.


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Instead, we took a map.

We get to see the magnolias, the cherries, and a myriad of other cool things. We achieve our purpose, map in hand.


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We have road maps, hiking maps–even my favorite bookstore has a map!


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Why, then, do we sometimes fail to set a course in parenting?

Why do we worry about the minor issues, and forget about the big ones? How do we become so wrapped up in the insignificant issues and forget about the foundational ones?

Intentional Christian parenting can be tough, and the years are shorter than they seem. Here’s a list of some important things to remember. A map, if you will.


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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #1: Love and Value Your Children

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:4, ESV

Nothing exasperates a child faster than feeling unloved.

Criticism, disdain and neglect leave scars not easily healed. More importantly, our children filter and interpret God’s love through the lens of their experience with their parents. If we can not convey our love and respect for our children while they are young, we lose the right to speak into their lives as they grow.

Does this mean we pamper our children? Does it mean that we fail to discipline them or praise their every move? No. We know from Scripture that we discipline our children because we love them, just as our Father disciplines us (Hebrews 12:4-11).

We engage in intentional parenting as we spend time with our children, hug them, speak blessings over them, serve them and give them good gifts. We look for opportunities to encourage and praise them when they do well, and we hold our tongues when the situation calls for grace and mercy.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #2: Point Children to Scripture

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.

2 Timothy 3:16-17, ESV

The best parenting advice I have received is to use Scripture when praising, when correcting, when teaching, when rebuking. We use Scripture in every instance of parenting.

Sometimes, this consists of retelling Bible stories related to the present situation. Often, individual verses or passages speak to the issue at hand.

Parenting through Scripture requires effort intentionality. First, we must know the written Word of God. Second, we must pray for guidance before speaking. Sometimes, this means we must table the discussion we are having to do research.

However, if we are not using God-breathed instructions to parent, what are we using?

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #3: Teach Children the Lord’s Character

Come, O children, listen to me;
    I will teach you the fear of the Lord.

Psalm 34:11, ESV

We must raise our children to fear the Lord. They must understand His character.

After all, if we do not understand our Creator, life becomes muddy and unclear–we suddenly do not understand our own pain, our purpose, our emotions or our world. It is only through knowledge of our Sovereign Lord that we see anything close to truth.

There is only one true God. He is holy, just, wrathful, loving, jealous and sovereign.

It is vital that we give our children a clear picture of the One we serve. We do that best by helping our kids know God through his Word.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #4: Protect Children’s Innocence

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.

1 Timothy 4:12, ESV

It’s easy, in this culture of idolatry, to believe that the status quo is perfectly acceptable.

We frequently hear parents state, “I was raised with that (whatever influence is in question), and I turned out fine.”

When it comes to the things we allow in our children’s minds, though, what if we don’t have the right to steal our children’s innocence? What if we are responsible for sheltering their purity until they are old enough to choose for themselves? What if the movies, music, and books we expose them to are shaping their spirits and impacting their souls?

How much is that worth?

I don’t have the perfect answer for these questions, and we’re all in this parenting thing together, figuring out how to raise adults in the culture we live in while working to shield their hearts until they grow in relationship with the Lord.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #5: Character Training Comes First

The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life,
    and whoever captures souls is wise.

Proverbs 11:30, ESV

The character of our children will lay the foundation for every single act in their lives.

Building and developing character can be an exhausting endeavor–it requires saying the same thing over and over and over again. It requires parental diligence–lots and lots of diligence.

Even so, we have a responsibility to help develop character in our children; to train them to be compassionate, honest, respectful, humble, loving, kind, hard-working and trustworthy. We want our children to have integrity–to do the same thing in public that they do in private.

All that said, man is sinful by nature (Psalm 51:5). We are humans are prone to the worst traits imaginable.

It is only through the work of the Holy Spirit that our hearts are changed and the fruit of the Spirit is manifested. In our household, we train repeatedly, and pray constantly, asking the Lord to call our children to himself and to give them regenerate hearts.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #6: Teach to Children’s Gifting

Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit; and there are varieties of service, but the same Lord; and there are varieties of activities, but it is the same God who empowers them all in everyone.

1 Corinthians 12:4-6, ESV

Put simply, God created each of our children to have unique talents, gifts, and abilities–he has a purpose for each child. It is our job, as parents, to prayerfully raise our children toward their individual bent. We must strive to help our children find their unique purpose.

For me, this means I don’t want to close any door for my children that the Lord has not himself closed. If my child appears to be a linguist, and I am teaching my child, this means I must learn the languages God guides us to teach our little one.

We teach to our child’s calling, regardless of the difficulty this may cause us personally. This whole idea of teaching to strengths sometimes takes experimentation.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #7: Maintain Perspective 

Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness. These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others.

Matthew 23:23, ESV

It is so easy, as parents, to dwell on the unimportant.

We worry that our children’s socks don’t match. They broke our favorite serving dish–or our window (by the way, that sounds like a bomb going off).  They backed the car into the mailbox–again. They didn’t get the Christmas gift we had hoped to provide.

It can be so easy to forget that we are raising adults, not creating the perfect childhood. It is so easy to set aside the truth that we are only stewards of these precious children who ultimately belong to their Heavenly Father.

Years from now, our kids will not remember all the little things we fretted and frowned over. They will only remember the way we reacted to them. They will become the adults we raise them to be–self-centered and self-serving. or focused on the things that truly matter–here and in eternity.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #8: Practice What You Preach

He did in all things as Joash his father had done.

2 Kings 14:3b, ESV

In the end, children grow to be adults. They choose their own path.

Still, the truth remains that children tend to be perfect mirrors of their parents. We love to tell our kids that we have eyes in the back of our heads. The truth is, we don’t–our kids do. They see everything we do.

Our best bet? Live in accordance to Scripture, live in the fear of the Lord, live with integrity.

When we make mistakes (and we will), we must humble ourselves and ask forgiveness from the little (or not-so-little-anymore) people observing and learning from us.

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Intentional Christian Parenting Tip #9: An Intentional Parenting Book

…that you may tell the next generation
that this is God,
our God forever and ever.
    He will guide us forever.

Psalm 48:13b-14

It never hurts to invest in a little additional help when it comes to the most important job the Lord has entrusted you with.

My book, Help Your Kids Learn and Love the Bible, will help you parent intentionally as you lead your kids through Scripture to the glory of God.

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You want your kids to learn and love the Bible. 

You want to teach the Bible…

As parents, we deeply desire the best for our kids. We look for the right schools, we make them eat right and exercise, and we get them involved in extracurricular activities. We take our job as parents seriously.

But are we also putting our time and energy into
teaching them the Bible? Giving them the life-changing, soul-nourishing words of Scripture is not only doable, it’s an essential part of parenting kids for Jesus. And the good news is, studying God’s Word as a family doesn’t have to be difficult!

2 Timothy 2:15, ESV, says:

Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved,
a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.

Our job, as parents who love Jesus, is to help our kids become approved workers, unashamed and rightly handling the word of truth.

The good news? Teaching the Bible isn’t hard. Your family can learn the Bible together.

…and you can!

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You will finish this book feeling encouraged and empowered to initiate and strengthen your child’s relationship with the Lord through His Word.

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Comments

  1. Chandra Nelson says

    April 27, 2011 at 8:44 am

    You make it sound so easy ha ha ha

    Thanks for the encouraging and inspiring information. Parenting so often feels blind, especially when we are all raised by broken people, even in the best circumstances. I loved the point you made “if we are not using God-breathed instruction to parent, what are we using?” God turns on the light for parenting and gives us a map when we use His Word.

    Praying for all the parents out there after reading this, praying for the light to shine and road map to be followed, and that our children will continue in the faith leaving a legacy.
    Thanks!

    Reply
    • Danika Cooley says

      April 27, 2011 at 8:55 am

      Thanks, Chandra! It’s definitely not easy, but nothing really worth doing is. I appreciate your heart, and the encouragement. I pray that I, too, can stay the course!

      Reply
  2. April says

    August 4, 2012 at 8:14 am

    Thank you for these truthfilled words of wisdom. They were much needed.

    Reply
    • Danika Cooley says

      August 6, 2012 at 6:12 am

      April,

      I’m so glad the post was of value to you. Thanks for letting me know!

      ~ Danika

      Reply
  3. Elly McC says

    August 27, 2012 at 11:15 pm

    Thank you for this wonderful post, Danika. I sure needed it…especially after today :'( Thank you once again for your godly encouragement!

    Reply
    • Danika Cooley says

      August 28, 2012 at 6:31 am

      Elly,

      Hang in there. Parenting is tough. It’s so worthwhile and has eternal impacts, but it’s really tough. Fight the good fight!

      ~ Danika

      Reply
  4. Angel Masri says

    August 26, 2013 at 9:46 pm

    Thank you for these beautiful words, “It is so easy to forget that we are raising adults, not creating the perfect childhood”. This is so true, I have three adult children, 5 grandchildren and a nine year old son. This reminder has come just in time to help me put all things back in perspective and prepare to homeschool for the first time ever. Thank you for sharing these words of wisdom.

    Reply
  5. Ruth says

    October 5, 2016 at 5:11 am

    Thank you for writing this! What a powerful set of paragraphs God has given you!!! It is so hard to be a parent and this a great reminder!

    Reply
  6. Paula D. says

    April 28, 2021 at 5:24 am

    Parenting is not for the faint of heart! Oh Lord, please help me to bring my children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

    Reply
  7. Sarah Cool says

    April 28, 2021 at 2:15 pm

    I love #6 it’s such a blessing to help find another’s special gift or purpose.

    Reply
  8. Erin says

    April 28, 2021 at 2:25 pm

    This is a really thoughtful, good list – thanks

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