Previous Pitchin’ a Fit Posts
Here I admit I’ve struggled with anger and invite you to the book club: Are You An Angry Parent?
You can find my review of Pitchin’ A Fit here: Pitchin’ A Fit Book Review
And read my thoughts on the Intro to Chapter 2 here: Is Angry Parenting OK?
Here are my comments on Chapters 3-4: Anger: I’m in Love with Me
Find out what I think about Chapters 5-6: Why Are You Angry?….
Chapter 7: “But I’m Not Patient!”
I loved this chapter, largely written by Brook Wayne. I know that as I was truly grappling with parental anger, both Galatians 5:16-26 and John 15:1-17 were constantly on my heart. They still are two of my favorite sections of Scripture. Because of that, when I got to this chapter, I breathed a sigh of happy satisfaction. This is some great advice–I know, because these are the Scriptures I prayed over and found freedom in as well. I also truly believe that the Lord uses our children to grow our character, often that results in greater patience. I loved this quote from Brook:
Chapter 8: What Patience Is and Isn’t
This is an interesting section, and I think it bears reading more than once. I appreciate the stance that patience isn’t passive, a pushover, or blind. And I really like the metaphors of a sword, a door, and a fire.
Here’s the deal: patience doesn’t make me ineffective or boring or slow. Instead, patience means that I wait on the Lord for answered prayer, that I build my relationship with my kids, that I respond to my children and husband with love and care, that I’m intentional about the way I live my life. That’s really what I want to do–I want to live intentionally for the Lord.
Chapter 9: Nurture in the Heart of Correcting
I think the best way to sum up this chapter is to proactively parent. It does us no good if we rage at our kids, nitpick them over every issue, or respond in sarcasm (because sarcasm is just sideways anger). When we parent that way, we’re ruining our relationship with our kids–and perhaps with our spouse–and working ourselves into a tizzy.
Instead, it makes a lot more sense to work with our kids to build the relationship, to point them toward godly character and wise decisions, to explain Scripture to them, and to pray with and for them.
Frederick Douglass said, “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Our job as parents is to lead–not to crush, mock, or deride.
Patience Scripture Memory Booklet
This section of Pitchin’ A Fit is all about patience! I thought you may be interested in downloading this Scripture memory book on patience.
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Check out our study schedule. It’s not to late to join! The book is just 159 pages, so this shouldn’t stress your schedule too much, and at one chapter a week, you’ll have lots of time for prayer, meditation, and Bible memory. Order a copy of the book and join us at the Family Discipleship group over on Facebook today! Please don’t forget to invite your friends. You never know who is wrestling anger silently in their own home or heart.
~ Danika Cooley
Danika Cooley is the author of When Lightning Struck! The Story of Martin Luther (Fortress Press, 2015), Wonderfully Made (CF4K, 2016), and Bible Road Trip. Her work has been featured in internationally-recognized children's magazines over 150 times.